Comments on: Abstinence-Only Sex Education Statistics – Final Nail in the Coffin

By: Sam

Sam — Fri, 13 May 2011 00:38:09 +0000

I think the reason abstinence only education fails is because it tries to tell people what to do rather than enable them to make informed decisions. I believe that I had sex young BECAUSE of two reasons: my older sisters made it seem like it wasn’t a big deal, and the abstinence education I received was so flawed that sadly I disregarded any GOOD information in in. For example, the program at my school had a man talk to us in 8th grade who said that his first child was born without part of its brain because he and his wife had had premarital sex……this makes NO sense, your BODY doesn’t know if it’s married or not!!! That type of stupidity eclipsed any good in the program. Sex Ed programs should teach teens how to know themselves, how to set boundaries that THEY are comfortable with, how to communicate about sex with a prospective partner, how to be assertive, and how to protect themselves. Now, I am in a great relationship where we have both been tested for STI’s, we use two forms of birth control, and we always communicate and respect each other. This is the first guy who hasn’t tried to coerce me into sex and has no problem letting me know when he’s not in the mood, leaving me free to turn down sex also. Sex Ed should be about RESPECT not SHAME!

By: Moral Values

Moral Values — Tue, 10 May 2011 11:13:36 +0000

by the way Pioneers are always very few! majority want to hang out with the crowd and flow along with the popular opinion. Am not among the majority, am a Pioneer and i believe abstinence works when you put necessary structures in your life and most importantly let God who created you be the absolute truth and every man a liar because it is working for me and am now a 26 years old man joyfully abstaining. The path that my friends took of condoms and contraceptives has only led them to regrets, guilt and consequences they can’t reverse and they will have to endure for the rest of their lives. In life you can choose your actions/behaviors but you don’t choose the consequences and the principles is you reap what you sow.

Science and statistics ( which are mostly twisted to fit the interests one who funded the research and trumpeted by the media who are hungry for profits ) can say what they want but i was created by God in His likeness and image NOT science- simple! America society is going down because people choose to live like animals but they forgot they can’t choose the consequences.

My father and mother did not wait till marriage but i made a decision not to follow their path and the course of history would change with me and am grateful God’s grace has enabled me stand despite the strong opposition and most of my lady friends (from whom among one of them will be my wife) we share the same values and strongly abide in them.

Let’s not trade our future, some treasures once lost are gone forever.

By: Moral Values

Moral Values — Tue, 10 May 2011 10:51:52 +0000

Big up for those who are standing up for moral values- we are many who have chosen to uphold and preserve the moral standards in a decaying world and those who have failed in abstinence you should instead keep quiet and admit you failed instead of discouraging others. The truth is those who can’t say no to sex can’t also say no in many other things- it is a manifestation of internal corruption in values and lack of self control.

Man is not a beast who is driven by hormones and feelings but a principled being with capacity to restrain himself and say no not only to sex before marriage but also unfaithfulness in marriage and other vices that make the society rot and stink.

For the sake of the generations behind me, i stand for purity till marriage and faithfulness in marriage and i don’t care even if the rest of the world disagrees with me after all am not a photocopy of another but an original one.

I will remain pure till marriage and teach my children to walk in my ways!

By: Lady Jaade

Lady Jaade — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 17:21:27 +0000

I am doing a persuasive speech in one of my classes. I will be doing it on abstinence. I agree with abstinence being taught in school; however I also can see this from the other side. If you just tell someone not to do something they are more likely to do it, I say teach abstinence as a main point but let the students know what will come if they choose to have sex. Incurage them to make their own choices but make sure they have all the information needed to make the right choice for them. I wish I hadn’t had sex for the first time but when I think about it I learned a lot about myself. I don’t think I would change anything but I know when it comes to the children I will have, I want them to feel confortable in makeing the choose that best suits them.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 10:33:05 +0000

Who is the publishing company?

By: Holly

Holly — Sat, 12 Mar 2011 16:17:37 +0000

To the “Idiot” who agrees with abstinence only, I want to congratulate you for standing up for what you believe in. I, myself, am an “18 year old virgin” because I am also waiting until marriage. Everyone who believes that premarital sex is okay, you’ve lost the original purpose of sex in the first place. When some of you become a parent, do you want your daughter to be sexually active? Most likely not, and if you do, I am concerned for you.
Every time you give your body sexually to someone you lose a little piece of yourself that you can never get back. It’s about going to the alter on the day you and your husband/wife will marry and being able to say, yes, I can fully give myself to you, and no, there are no pieces floating around with five (most likely more) different men. Take a rose for instance. Every time you sleep with someone a petal falls off and by the time you marry, most likely, your left standing with only a stem. When I go to the alter, I want to be able to stand in front of my husband with a beautiful rose without missing any petals.
How can you “anti-abstinence” people sit there and argue about something that society has made acceptable? You all sound ignorant. Sorry.

By: Caitlin

Caitlin — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 06:29:21 +0000

People are getting so angry at each other when I think we are all in the same boat. We both don’t want sex before marriage to these teens that truly dont know what they’re doing. I agree that it should be abstinence only and that is so much of what is right. I ALSO know that kids these days aren’t all conservative Christians, and knowing this they will most likely have sex in their teen years. It would be much wiser (using our HISTORY SO IT DOES NOT REPEAT ITSELF) to teach students what to do to prevent abortions (most people on this page will agree is an extremely horrible thing). I guess it all comes down to, do you want to continue in your stubborn ways (however justified) and just want to keep their virgnity in tact. Or rather, would you like to save lives just by drilling it to them to use a condom or birth-control.

That is not to say that the two can not go hand in hand, show your reluctance to having sex and saying abstinence is the way to go but if they are going to slip up or whatever else, use a condom.

Nobody here is a “moron” “idiot” or “under a rock”. We are all on the same issue just going around the circle a different way.

By: name is no more important than choice

name is no more important than choice — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 22:17:09 +0000

Reading and understanding. Perspective, oppinion, experience. What has everyone gone through? What is everyones real concern? Why do people care?

What i did was make the promise to not have sex before marriage at a very young age because my mom was honest with me at a young age about why i should wait with all the education of comprehensive sex education&religion. But when i looked at my mothers life i realize that marriage is just a title that people depend on. My mother got married to my father at age 20, two days after they met. three months later she was pregnant with me. I didnt know any of this till i was older but ill never really forget that information. She waited till marriage to have sex but in a reckless pursuit of needing codependency she married him. And in the end it didnt work out with them. So back to me, i believe in marriage, but with time. As for sex, i found the right person, weve been together for five wonderful years. And yes, weve had sex. But he has been my one and only partner and we are engaged.

As for actual education on the matter- Everything needs to be taught. Personal experiences, bad experiences, safe sex, stds,whatever relates. Educate our youth- let them make there own descesions. There going to anyway no matter what.

I believe the way we value sex is determind with how we value ourselves and if we educate ourselves then the descision will be easier. We should be able to pridefully choose with no regrets.

By: VS

VS — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 01:21:08 +0000

Teen pregnancy can be easily fought with contraception. A combination of both the birth control pill and the condom has a .002% chance of failure. STDs are a bit harder to fight.

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Tue, 21 Sep 2010 12:58:20 +0000

“theres nothing wrong with sex, its just the way you handle it”